A common assumption is that self-esteem and self-confidence are the same things.
Self-confident people may also suffer from low self-esteem, and this can be seen by the vast number of actors, celebrities and public figures who appear to be overflowing with self-confidence, yet totally lack self-esteem when away from the media or when they’re not performing.
Self-esteem is commonly defined as how an individual “estimates” themselves. Those who find it hard to answer ‘yes’ to questions such as ‘do I like myself’ or ‘do I deserve to be happy’ are often suffering from a lack of self-esteem.
Most people do experience low self-esteem at some point in their life, if they lose their job for example, but they also experience high self-esteem at other points, such as when they successfully complete a challenge.
Those who do not bounce back from low levels of self-esteem and constantly think negatively about themselves may be suffering from chronic low self-esteem.
Signs of low self esteem
- Feeling hopeless or depressed
- Feeling bored with life
- Having no motivation
- Thinking there’s nothing to look forward to
- Thinking negatively about yourself
- Feeling tired a lot of the time
- Feeling like a failure
- Wishing your life was better
There are a number of factors thought to influence levels of self-esteem:
- Our own natural personality can affect our self-esteem, as can the messages we receive from others around us about how we should act and feel.
- Our family and our early years are strong influences on how our self-esteem developed.
- How an individual develops their self-esteem through adolescence often has an impact on their future levels.
- Altering levels of self-esteem has to be actively sought by the individual themselves and can’t be ‘given’ to them.
Taking care of your physical health, reducing stress levels and exercising can all help towards building self-esteem. Sometimes keeping a diary to explore negative memories may help you to relate to how these are causing you distress now.
Mindset coaching is extremely useful for the treatment of low self-esteem. Mindset coaching usually involved a variety of modalities such as positive psychology, NLP, CBT, hypnotherapy and psychotherapy. This coaching can give you the skills needed to relax and access your unconscious mind to discover the true, root cause of the low self-esteem and uses the power of suggestion to create more positive thought patterns.
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