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8 Steps to Unbreakable Motivation

Whether you’re heading towards a specific goal, trying to stick to your New Year’s resolutions or just pumping yourself up towards something in the future, motivation is the thing that makes or breaks success in the first instance – hands down.

Motivation is actually made up of two parts. First there is the drive to get started on the thing you wish to achieve, and the second is the willpower to keep at it.

The most long-lasting motivation is created internally. When you rely on external factors you surrender control of your progress. But when you motivate yourself, you remain in the driving seat and it’s this that will often lead to more enjoyment and a stronger sense of achievement.

Here are some steps to help you get motivated and maintain it…

  1. Review

Think of your main goal or what you’d like to be motivated about and then ask yourself

  • What would happen if I achieved that?
  • What wouldn’t happen if I achieved that?
  • What would happen if I didn’t achieve that?
  • What wouldn’t happen if I didn’t achieve that?

This will give you a clear idea of what will happen when you do or don’t achieve that what you’re after. These answers are your motivations.

Take those motivations and paste them everywhere. Keep the list with you in your wallet or purse, on a flash card, stick them to your computer screen, your phone screensaver or anywhere else that you regularly look at and therefore be reminded of them.

  1. Reflect

Take time to sit and think. Self-hypnosis, meditation, guided visualisation – whatever floats your boat, just DO IT! Bring your wandering mind and its thoughts back to this moment NOW. What is happening RIGHT NOW is all there ever is. All that ever exists. And it’s in this moment NOW that you can begin to focus on a plan. You can consciously recharge whenever you are feeling drained. One of the most motivating things you can do is to rest and renew yourself at regular intervals.

  1. Listen to yourself

We can be very critical of ourselves sometimes but we can also be our own greatest cheerleaders. Focus your mind towards the positives in your motivations list and believe that anything that cannot be controlled by you is alright. Tell yourself, “it’s fine”, and keep going.

  1. Move it

Exercise will not only keep you energised, refreshed, and motivated, it also gives you an active time to reflect on things.

Examining your thoughts while you exercise can double your productivity. If a challenge springs to mind you can push a little harder and use that energy to fuel an even better workout. A long walk or gentle run can become very introspective and the release of feel-good chemicals in the brain can reduce stress and enhance motivation as a natural by-product.

Exercise your mind as well by doing things differently. Try brushing your teeth with the other hand, swapping knife and fork around or even taking a new route to work. In this way, you’re developing a growth mindset and training your mind to enjoy new challenges. This can be applied to the major goals you wish to achieve. Sometimes having a new insight or approach to life can excite and motivate.

  1. Accountability

Find at least one (or more) like-minded people who can support and motivate you through the good and bad times. These people will share your triumphs and failures, be genuinely happy and, most importantly, be there for you. Feeling alone or having the wrong people around you can destroy your motivation.

  1. Listen to music

Listen to your favourite, uplifting music. Create a play-list that has all the music you love listening to that makes you feel motivated, inspired and high-spirited. Play that soundtrack first thing in the morning and at regular intervals in your day to give yourself a good lift and a strong shot of motivation. Feel free to dance around and release those feel-good hormones.

  1. The big picture

Imagine your life after you’ve achieved your goal. Allow yourself to really step into the vision. When you have a clearly-defined image, you will be more motivated to pursue the big picture. Revisit your vision regularly and allow it lift you.

  1. Celebrate the journey

Huge goals often take time to realise. This can be frustrating and become a drain on the original motivation. So, on your journey towards success, pay attention to and celebrate how far you’ve come! Remember the challenges you’ve accomplished so far and be proud of yourself. The celebration will inspire you and build a more effective you.

You may even prefer to set a series of short-term goals and celebrate reaching those on your way towards your main objective.

Ultimately, motivation starts with mindset and if you use one or more of the tried and tested techniques outlined above, you’ll find yourself at the finish line quicker than you could ever have imagined.

If you’d like to learn how hypnotherapy can help you get motivated, get in contact with Richard for a free rapid change consultation.

Richard Scott combines psychology, NLP and CBT with over 10 years’ professional, full-time experience in traditional and modern hypnosis to deliver the fastest, most successful results. He specialises in stress and anxiety control, weight management, confidence and self-esteem, and empowering women.

 

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New Year Resolutions that Stick

The New Year approaches and many of us start thinking of resolutions. It can actually feel uplifting to begin a new plan such as joining a gym to get fit, writing one page a day for your next best-selling novel, or more prosaically, keeping up with your inbox.

But, as most of you know, the novelty wears off and you get bored and discouraged. You’re confronted with the arduous day to day challenge of sustaining your goals. Unexpected events throw you off course. You’re required to stay late at work, you can’t put down our smart phone or a relative gets sick.

Disappointingly, one day of missing the goal then leads to missing the next and next day, until your goal is abandoned.

In this post, I’m going to reveal to you where resolutions begin to unravel.

Most articles about New Year’s resolutions talk about setting practical goals and getting started, but I’m going to jump ahead and anticipate your first failure. Just as important as setting realistic and important S.M.A.R.T. goals is having a plan for how to keep going despite the inevitable setbacks you will encounter.

Disillusionment Stage
Let me introduce Stacey. Stacey has been very excited about her New Year’s resolutions to lose weight, be kinder to her husband, and implement a reward chart for her young boy. She’s discovering the dance class at the gym is lots of fun and she has even lost a few pounds. Her son loves the stickers he gets for keeping his room tidy. She’s also been enjoying her alone time with her husband more since she’s made an effort to be less critical and more supportive.

Then, on a mid-January morning Stacey can’t find her car keys. She also can’t find any stickers and leaves home without following through on the program she planned with her son. Stacey arrives late for the gym to find the parking lot is full. After circling for fifteen minutes, she leaves feeling very annoyed. She gets to work and feels awkward that she still has her gym clothes on and she has to explain the situation and re-live the frustration.

Starving and frustrated, Stacey furtively grabs a chocolate-covered donut from the work-kitchen. Stacey’s husband calls during work to say ‘hi’ and she snaps at him for something random, as she’s meanwhile harbouring resentment that he didn’t help find her car keys.

We all have such days. No one succeeds in accomplishing his or her goals without facing some unexpected setbacks. What, then, differentiates those who can pick themselves up and keep going from those who become just give up?

What Went Wrong?
As human beings, we constantly strive to understand our circumstances and, our purpose. It’s how we’re programmed. When something unpleasant happens to you, we often demand to know why. This explanation stage is crucial to understanding how you respond to setbacks.

Most of us look for a way to make sense of setbacks. We look to blame someone (oneself, a partner, the situation) and start feeling hopeless. If you believe the setback is something beyond your control, then you’ll feel helpless, frustrated and discouraged.

Those who are resilient persevere in face of adversity. In fact, some individuals even use setbacks to become even more determined to accomplish their goals. The large body of research on resilience demonstrates that those who can get back on track quickly after setbacks enjoy better moods, which lead to more productivity, and overall better health.

How can you use this information to help you overcome those rough days and stick to your New Year’s Resolutions?

In the mental health field, we know that some individuals are born with more resilient temperaments, even as infants, showing the capacity to soothe themselves quickly. Even if you weren’t born as one of these fortunate individuals, know that it’s not too late for you to develop your own resiliency capabilities.

Here is a mindset to help you become more resilient.

Develop realistic expectations.

Recognise that the unexpected (e.g., a sick child, power outage, miscommunication) is a part of life. Also, acknowledge that making changes takes time and that there may be a steep learning curve at the beginning. At times, it will take longer to accomplish your goals than you had originally anticipated.

However, this time doesn’t need to be a “waste of time.” Instead of saying “this shouldn’t happen,” or “I should already know how to do this,” recognise that setbacks are a part of life that leads to progress.

Appreciate that setbacks may even bring unexpected surprises.

Stacey might decide to talk to her husband about chores and discover he welcomes a heart-to heart with her; he’s been frustrated with her silent treatments and is relieved to know what’s bothering her. Or maybe Stacey will talk to her HR department at work about having healthier options in the kitchen.

Perhaps she’ll realise that she just had a slip with her son and his reward stickers and can talk to him tomorrow to explain the plan and get back on track. There are lots of options. Each day offers new opportunities to approach things just a bit differently, adding a process for efficiency, cultivating kindness and patience, or just having “one of those days.”

You might even consider making your New Year’s “Resolution” to become more resilient, to better able to find solutions and maintain your overall determination in all that you do. Resolve not to let small setbacks – or even large ones – throw you off your game.

Once you resolve to find a healthy determination and mindset to tackle problems one by one, you’ll be mentally and spiritually re-charged. Go ahead, set realistic goals, but also set one extra one – the goal of sticking with your plan when the going gets tough.

Let me know how you go, and if you enjoyed this post maybe your friends will too – please share.

Have a fantastic Christmas and New Year,

Richard Scott

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Mission SLIMpossible

Among millions of people who try make a New Year’s weight loss resolution, around only eight per cent are able to keep it. And even if they lose weight initially, it usually returns.

Why? Because most dieters tend to forget the emotional component to food. And they’re not alone, it’s a key aspect that the vast majority of people simply overlook and it can quickly sabotage your efforts. 

According to a recent survey of more than one thousand people, 31 per cent of think that lack of exercise is the biggest barrier to weight loss. This is followed by diet, accounting to 26 per cent of the responses, and the cost of a healthy lifestyle, which amounts to 17 per cent.

But only one in ten responses point psychological well-being was a factor and that in my opinion is the reason why most dieters struggle. “In order to lose weight and keep it off long term, you need to do more than just think about what you eat, you also need to understand why you’re eating.”

weight loss resolution, christmas, festive, party, christmas party, family, xmas, stress“From a very young age we’re emotionally attached to food. As children we’re often given treats, both to console us when we’re upset, and to reward us for good behaviour. Most celebrations, like Halloween, Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day are food-focused, and birthdays are spent sharing cake. Even the mere smell of certain foods, like cookies in grandma’s oven, can create powerful emotional connections that last a lifetime.” said Robinson.

Whether you’re aware of it or not, you are conditioned to use food not only for nourishment, but for comfort. That’s not a bad thing, necessarily, as long as you acknowledge it and deal with it appropriately. Whenever the brain experiences pleasure for any reason it reacts the same way.

three tips to help manage your emotional connection with food and boost your weight loss resolution:

  • Keep a daily diary logging your food and your mood, and look for unhealthy patterns.
  • Identify foods that make you feel good and write down why you eat them. Do they evoke a memory or are you craving those foods out of stress?
  • Before you have any snack or meal ask yourself: Am I eating this because I’m hungry? If the answer is no, look for the root of your motive.

The goal should be to take out emotion out of eating and see food as nourishment, not as a reward or coping mechanism.

Let me know how you progress. If you like this blog post I’m sure your friends would too, be kind and share.

Richard Scott