Do you need therapy?

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All of us experience difficulties ate some point or other – stress, sadness, anger and more.

More often than not these can leave you feeling worn out, exhausted, and a little helpless. So when we are feeling run down it can be difficult to know whether to seek help or just let the unwanted emotion pass.

It is a myth that we should have a mental illness first before we see a therapist.

And such stigma and many myths attached to seeing a therapist is one of the major factors why there’s a low rate of treatment. Contrary to the popular view, psychotherapy is a wonderful approach to many of life’s problems, and you need not have a depression, anxiety disorder, or some behavioural issue to see a professional.

More importantly, not addressing our mental health issues effectively could then lead to any of these mental illnesses, or maybe a more severe one. The sooner you get help, the better.

Waiting too long can make those negative patterns or behaviours become more entrenched, which need more time, money and effort to be resolved.

Subtle signs you need to see a therapist.

You feel stuck.
If you feel like you are not moving forward in a specific area of your life – whether it’s your relationship, career or finances, seeing a therapist can help. Feeling stuck causes pain and sense of not being or doing enough. It affects your performance, and takes off your enthusiasm to try new ventures and entertain better opportunities in life.

You’re getting bad feedback from work lately.
Changes in work performance is common among people who are struggling with psychological and emotional health issues.

Mental health issues make you disconnected from your job, slows down your drive to deliver, makes you uninspired, and takes away your motivation to work.

If you’ve been getting negative feedback from your managers or co-workers about your work for some time now, it could be a sign to talk to a therapist now.

You’ve gone physically weaker.
If you are emotionally upset, it can show in your body. Emotional and mental health goes hand in hand. When the other is not in good shape, so does the other.

If you always feel tired, have constant headaches, colds and back pain, and have diminished sex drive, seeing a therapist is something you should consider.

You lost interest in your hobbies.
Things you used to enjoy don’t appeal to you that much anymore. Missing meet-ups and family gatherings, and feeling uninterested in your beloved activities are signs that you are battling with a psychological issues.

You’re using substance or distractions to cope.
Do you resort to alcohol, cigarettes, drugs or other distractions like eating or shopping to cope with work and relationship pressures and conflicts? This is a big sign that you are trying to numb the feelings that should be addressed.

Your relationship is strained.
If you find yourself feeling unhappy or disconnected during interactions with your loved ones, friends and partner, you can greatly benefit from undergoing therapy. Therapy equips you with the skills needed to openly and positively express and communicate how you feel.

If you are not functioning the way you want to, therapy might be the answer you’re looking for.

I’d love to hear your feedback.

10 Realistic Pursuits to achieve.

We all have different dreams and aspirations in life. These things are what keeps us motivated to keep moving forward, even though we know it’s going to be difficult. Maybe you dream of putting up your own restaurant, travelling the world, buying a beautiful house, becoming a superstar or a popular athlete, taking a master’s degree in Harvard, etc.

No matter how big your dreams are, a big part of you says you will achieve them someday. But apart from these, there are other things that we should also put in our “dream list”. These are things that regardless of who you are, where you are now, and what you want to become – are essential to your success and happiness.

Whie getting them could be a challenge, they’re definitely worth the undertaking.

Love

On top of our list is love. That big house you’re dreaming of will not bring you much happiness unless it is shared with someone you can be with for the rest of your life.

While to love is to be vulnerable, it is one of the magical things that you could ever have in your life.

Good Health

Without good health, it is impossible to reach your dreams. Poor health is one major obstacle that can prevent you from attaining your goals.

Not only is it expensive, but not being in good health saps you of the energy and enthusiasm to keep moving. It affects your perspective and discourages you from pursuing your dreams. Health is wealth. It’s true. And we should treasure it like we treasure everything else that matters to us.

Sleep

Few people realise how important sleep is to their health, well-being and happiness. As you sleep, a lot of magical, good things happen within your body. Your organs, including your cells go through strenuous repair, thus, slashing your risk of illnesses and making you feel rejuvenated. A good amount of sleep each night is good for your body and soul.

Happiness

Your money in the bank will not give you happiness. It could give you pleasure, but only for a short whilst. This does not mean you have to stop working and earning money and trying to be rich.

What it means is that you should not think that early possessions are what gives us happiness. Happiness is not a destination. It is a journey. We wouldn’t find it from other people (not even from our partners).

We find it within ourselves – in the innermost part of us. Allow yourself to be happy. Live in the moment. Enjoy the ride. Happiness is just around the corner.

Kindness

In this cruel world, it is often hard to be kind. But compassion has been scientifically shown to increase happiness and satisfaction in life.

Being kind doesn’t mean you have to allow others to take you for granted, do someone else’s work, or give up everything you have to help those in need.

Being kind is more of being just, showing respect, and giving others some consideration. Be kind to yourself as well. You can’t be fully compassionate towards other people if you don’t love yourself.

Friendships

Friends will not only help you achieve your dreams, they can also make the journey easy and fun. Good friends are treasure you should not take for granted, but take good care of.

Fill your life with people who inspire you to become a better version of yourself, who always push you forward, and never leave you through the tough times.

Forgiveness

Another thing that is worth pursuing is forgiveness. Whether it’s directed to someone else or to yourself, forgiveness marks the start of healing. You don’t want to move forward with your life carrying a heavy burden of resentments, painful feelings and grudges. Let go of them. They don’t make your journey easy, rather tormenting.

Rest and Relaxation

Workaholic? It’s time to slow down a little. You are not a machine. You are a human being who feels tired from time to time. It is just right to give yourself rest and relaxation, every single day.

You can do anything but not everything. When you allow yourself to be lazy on a Sunday, give yourself a 30-minute to an hour of digital detox every day, or practise some calming medication exercise, you will realise that life can be so, so much better!

Meaningful Career

If you spend eight hours or more of your day in a job that does not feed your emotional, creative and intellectual needs, you should consider pursuing something else.

A meaningful career is one that feeds your passion and gives you a sense of pride in what you do. Of course, you will get tired and burned out from time to time. But at the end of the day, you still are thankful because you are able to pursue what you are passionate about.

Gratitude

Gratitude is one of the biggest gifts you can give to yourself right now.  Be thankful for everything – even the smallest accomplishments and positive experiences you’ve had. Gratitude is not only good for your health, it also puts you in the right perspective when times get rough.

Let me know your thoughts and have a great day.

Richard Scott
Clinical hypnotherapist